Is Your Anger Affecting Your Children? Avoid These Common Divorce Mistakes

When your children look back on their memories with you, they’re not going to remember the fancy trips or expensive gifts as much as they’ll remember how you made them feel. They’ll remember the time you spent together, the laughs, the inside jokes, and the little everyday moments that meant so much.

As you go through this separation or divorce, it’s essential to think about how you want your kids to feel about you—and about themselves. Ask yourself: How does it affect them when they hear you speak negatively about their other parent? What do they feel when you seem frustrated, or you snap easily? How do they process seeing you hurt, sad, or angry? Even small reactions, like an eye roll or a harsh word, when their other parent comes up, leave an impact.

These are the moments they’ll carry forward, possibly even talking about with their own children someday. They’re forming impressions that will last a lifetime, shaping their understanding of family, love, and resilience. If you want them to look back and feel proud of their childhood and secure in who they are, now is the time to consider how you’re making them feel each day.

Divorce isn’t what anyone plans for, and it’s rarely easy. But now that you’re here, you have a choice. You can choose how you’re going to be during this time and how you’ll guide your kids through it. Someday, when they’re grown and reflecting on this period with their own families, what do you want them to say about you?

Remember, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are important. Your kids are special, and your life is still full of amazing possibilities. Make each moment count toward the memories you want them to carry with them.

Wendy

xoxo